In part 1 of Snow by CALMs first mini blog post series I shared how I have been learning a new side to emotions. I shared how God has been taking me on a journey the past few weeks of learning how to deal with new emotions and actually beginning the process of embracing emotions, not trying to change them as soon as you feel them.
During this post I will discuss the importance of recognizing the shift in recovery when you need to start embracing your emotions. I will also talk about why the difference in response to your emotions is important.
God has been really talking to me about the whole concept of stewardship. Stewardship is this process where you learn how to take care of something. You can learn how to steward money, for example. If you don’t learn how to steward your money, you’ll either never have enough or be trying to get the most money and won’t be living in a balanced place. If you are always trying to get as much money as possible, for example, you may be worried that you don’t have enough so you don’t eat as much as you should to try to have more money. If you learned how to steward your money, you’d always have more than enough and you wouldn’t need to worry.
It states “Stewardship is an ethic that embodies the responsible planning and management of resources.”
I have been learning that stewardship and emotions actually go hand in hand. Just like money, learning how to steward your emotions is just as important, maybe even more so. Like many other things in life, i.e. money, you need to learn control over emotions, how to use emotions, when to use emotions. Over the past few days, I have started to believe that if you truly learn about emotions and stewarding them well, emotions can become even more powerful and useful than money.
I think the process of learning about how to take responsibility and control over are emotions begins the moment you choose you want to have a better life, a life of freedom and happiness and you begin this journey to figure out how and what that looks like.
Eventually, if you aren’t already, you will get to a place where its time to embrace your emotions you are feeling and figure out how to live and grow from that place. BUT why is it important? When you arrive at this certain place in recovery WHY should we start to embrace our emotions? WHY can’t we continue to try to change our emotions ASAP if they feel negative or unhealthy?
Well for me anger has been such a huge trigger because whenever I have seen anger I have been abused shortly after.
I was so terrified to embrace the anger I have been feeling of fear of abuse. I remember the first night where I embraced the anger, I experienced the highs and lows, the heart rate surges, the screaming. After about an hour I didn’t have any anger left in me. I was actually tired and ready for a nap. Instead of avoiding the anger for days, all I have to do is embrace it, in a controlled manner, and it will be over a lot sooner.
Once I have made the choice to embrace all the emotions that I am feeling, life actually feels more manageable and I feel better about myself.
It’s important to make a shift in recovery, and start to embrace emotions BECAUSE, I believe, it’s one of the best ways to continue growing. I can take a wild guess that you haven’t gotten anywhere in your recovery without changing and growing.
Recovery is all about learning and trying to figure out how to live a life a freedom. It really sucks to feel like you’re finally free from the prison that emotions can make us feel like we are in, just to be faced with the same prison again.
Learning how to embrace your emotions is apart of learning how to steward emotions. Instead of emotions being something that is crippling, I challenge you to learn how to make emotions your sword; something powerful you can use to fight back with.
Stay tuned for part 3! I will share about responsibility and how it ties in with emotions. I will also talk more about my journey of learning about this new side of emotions. I will talk about some more helpful tips as you start to navigate this new part of recovery.